Hi Andy
sorry to hear you are having a bad experience trying to find information out about paramotoring.
In the main there are a few groups, but not many paramotoring "clubs", unlike paragliding where just about everyone is in a club.
We fly on the south coast and use this forum or ring around, but there isn't a club as such.
Both of my paramotors I have purchase secondhand and have been fantastic.
The first was on the recommendation of a paramotoring friend and the other off skyads.
They were both half the price of new and in great condition. I have flown full pelt on them in several comps.
Be warned though, some units will not be genuine at all, so its worth asking others in forums like this about the seller or the secondhand motor you see.
My first wing was also secondhand, from someone I got to know.
Buying a new wing when you begin would seem to be a bad idea as you may find you want something else after a year or so.
A second hand wing will not lose you as much money as buying new.
If you want to fly in competitions, which is great fun, see: http://www.ppgcomps.co.uk/
There are UK league and Open comps.
If you can, come along to the league and register to marshal, no experience needed!
You'll meet a lot of very keen pilots who will be only too willing to help you in your decision.
Also if you want to fly in comps you will need insurance, which is one of the things that the bhpa do offer
Their training courses are structured and set by the national body for paramotoring, which is what they are.
They have decades of experience of running courses and training the instructors.
This is probably one of the reasons why they can get insurance for us all.
The bhpa Pilot exam for paramotoring ensures that you have the knowledge that is essential before you take to the skies on your own.
As you know you do not have to go through the bhpa route, and I know there are very good non bhpa instructors, but I am not sure who or how they are regulated
I hope you find the solution that works for you
Teresa